A Deeper Look At The Intimidator Control Drama
The Intimidator is the most aggressive type of “Control Drama” where the user tries to scare you into deferring to their control in the relationship. Thus, this is the most dangerous of manipulation devices since some Intimidator’s resort to violence to ensure that the game works.
You know when you are relating to an Intimidator when you sense an air of aggression in another’s demeanor and attitude. This person has usually grown up in an environment where he could not gain energy in his early childhood in any other way.
As with the other games, one should be as honest as possible with the Intimidator, and find subtle ways to “name the game.” Wise judgment and care for your safety should be used. Sometimes an Intimidator will be found in a relationship with a Poor Me, who has learned to argue back only passively by guilt tripping or pleading. This is often the core dynamic, which makes people stay in relationships that are verbally abusive or violent. In these cases, leaving the relationship and seeking shelter somewhere else may be the only option.
Cultivating Healthy Boundaries
Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries is a life skill. It requires a confidence that allows us to feel as though we deserve to be respected, and though it seems many of us are born with it, often it slowly wanes over time. As our childish innocence falls to the side, we try to figure out […]
Celestine Prophecy Secrets: Staying Out of Control Dramas
If you have read the Celestine Prophecy, then you know that “Staying out of CONTROL DRAMAS” is essential to becoming more Conscious and being able to create the life you want. Remember, THE CELESTINE PROPHECY reveals 9 of 12 truths about how the world “really” works and how humanity is destined to come into alignment […]
Deconstruct The Seven Sins & Love Your Life
Our species have struggled with the “seven sins,” for longer than the clock has ticked. And it seems to me that these negative behaviours all have two things in common: they are triggered by trauma and rooted in Fear. When something happens that we can’t rationally compute, fear sets in, and it can morph into […]
Can Love Really Change The World?
If we think of Life as an ocean, and ourselves as water particles existing within it, I think it’s easy to imagine how we are all actually one. The energy of Life carries us along; sometimes it’s rough with us, sometimes it’s soothingly calm – at times, we’ll get pulled down by undercurrents into complete […]
Healing A Broken Heart
The door closes. They are gone. That part of your life is now in the past, and the one you loved is yours no more. Sometimes, a break-up will be filled with immediate relief (mostly, it will be filled with sadness) but this scenario has the potential to tear your heart from your chest and […]
Moving Through Restlessness Back Into The Flow
As I look back at my pattern of growth, it seems like I always start with the First Insight. The Restlessness seems to knock me out of my Synchronistic flow and then into a state of confusion, filled with unknowing and a lack of inspiration. Getting back into the flow is as easy as staying […]
Taking Responsibility for Control Dramas in Relationships
As Autumn and I were discussing her article, Letting Go of Anger in Relationships, we realized how much it resonated with my own relationship. Our stories may all be slightly or even totally different, but we can all relate to each other once we have an understanding of how we compete for energy. I think […]
CREATING A SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIP
Relationships…When they are healthy and balanced, they can be life-giving and energizing. A supportive relationship, founded in love, whether it is romantic or friendship based, can offer an invigorating level of companionship and life-long support. In a balanced relationship, energy and is given back and forth, and grows — uplifting both people into their highest creativity. […]
Poor Me Control Drama: How to Respond
We’ve all been there. We have a friend, loved one, partner or co-worker who starts complaining about how life has dealt them some pretty rotten hands. They go on and on. They’re inconsolable. We may care and want to help them, but we may find ourselves needing space from their constant pessimism and complaining, which […]
Understanding Control Dramas
As we start to understand that “Control Dramas” exist, we can further enhance our awareness of these behaviors displayed by others and ourselves. In this way, we can take the steps to transcend and interpret them on a much deeper level, both spiritually and psychologically. People seek to control others. It can be seen that […]