4. Be Available To Each Other
The capability of your relationship to last through the tough times has a lot to do with the amount of availability you give each other. Unfortunately, many couples become disconnected from each other for an array of reasons, over time. Therefore, their relationship struggles to survive through the hard times they come to face.
To strengthen your relationship, begin to acknowledge the ordinary moments you share together, rather than overlooking them. For example, if your partner wants to share something they are reading, take a moment to listen and show that you are attentive to their needs and wants. If you relish in enough of the little things, you will find that when you truly need your partner, they are always there for you.
5. Show Appreciation For One Another
Remember when you first started dating, how much you admired and valued each other? One of the vital keys to a lasting and fulfilling relationship is to continue appreciating one another. Consistently making an effort to show your partner that you are grateful for them, will do wonders for improving your relationship and enhancing the bond you share together.
Showing appreciation can be as simple as frequent compliments, gratitude for daily responsibilities, or telling them why they mean so much to you in your life. It is essential to assure your partner often that you genuinely appreciate them. Without this, one can begin to feel used or taken advantage of when they consider all of the things they may do to keep your life flowing in a conducive and peaceful manner. Giving verbal recognition will show respect for both partners and show that you are thankful for everything they do, including the small things.
6. Don’t Become Too Critical
When in a long-term relationship, couples can become complacent and begin to focus on common flaws and negative qualities in one another. They find themselves becoming critical and nitpicking their partner’s minor attributes. This can cause the other to develop self-esteem issues and deflate their confidence when confronted in such a callous fashion.
If you find yourself rooted in this habit of distorted thinking, try to break the cycle of how you’ve handled these annoyances, personally. The next time you have a negative thought about something your partner has done, seek to find a more neutral explanation for their actions. Another strategy is to consider whether you would judge yourself so harshly if the situation were reversed.
7. Don’t Leave Or Go To Bed Angry
If things do go wrong and develop into an angry withdrawal, it is critical that you seek to make amends as soon as you can before a long period of separation occurs. Leaving your relationship in a state of displeasure can cause irrevocable damage and resentment. So offer a genuine apology for your role in the problem. Agree to work on communicating with one another while maintaining a more considerate and understanding approach.
For a long time now, Salle and I have had a rule that we will never go to bed upset at one another. It has continued to be a beneficial practice to the health and longevity of our relationship. A sincere effort to reconnect goes a very long way when moving forward to an authentic compromise. It speaks volume to your partner and says, “I care enough to want to make things right.”
To Read More On This Topic, See My Article: “The Formula For A Spiritual Relationship”
Recommended Reading: Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work by Matthew McKay PhD
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