“I know this is an important issue that we need to discuss, but my energy is really low right now, and I want to be able to be at my best when we resume this conversation. How about we pick back up here after lunch?”
“I can’t talk right now because I’m really upset, and I need to calm down first.”
“I love you, and I know we can find a solution that will work for both of us, but finding that kind of solution is more difficult when our energy is low. Let’s sleep on it and talk about it tomorrow.”
“I’m starting to feel really tense. Let’s just pause for a moment to take a breath and calm down (then visibly breathing deeply).”
Or there are many other ways to pause without retreating into Aloof mode.
Connecting with the Source
Chapter 5 of the Celestine Prophecy (Message of the Mystics) talks of connecting to the Source (God, Goddess, Universe, Tao, Chi, Energy, Love,– Feel free to use whatever word resonates with your experience of this Connection). Once we learn to Connect with the Source in a way that we can fill up on this universally available energy, we don’t have to struggle with another person for their energy nor do we need to “Defend” our own energy so valiantly. Instead, we can fill up to the point of overflowing with energy and allow that overflow to help the other person fill up some too. There is plenty to share 🙂
If I’m giving you energy, there is no need to “steal” it from me, and the struggle for energy or power ceases to be so much of a struggle.
And after connecting with the Source, and being able to give energy to the other person, then we can better deal with those pesky Control Dramas. We can know, first of all, that a Control Drama was occurring, we can also know that we are pausing ourselves, and connecting with the Source, and then we can interact in a way that is authentic, empowered, and filled with Love and Compassion, both for ourselves, and for the person with whom we are speaking.
Step by step
So far, we’ve covered the first few steps in dealing with a Control Drama:
Step 1- Notice that a Control Drama is happening.
Step 2- HALT, check in with the self and regain the connection with the Source (Goddess, God, Universe, Love, Energy, Tao, Chi, Allah, Higher Power, whatever word you prefer to use to describe that connection).
Step 3- Fill up with Energy/Love to the point that you are overflowing and able to share the excess energy with the person with whom you’ve had the conflict.
I believe the best response to any of the Control Dramas is always to HALT, check in with yourself and fill yourself up from the Source, to the point of overflowing with enough Love and Energy that you can freely Share the Love.
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To learn more, listen to the CV Podcast: The Big Picture – Handling Control Dramas