Hundreds of movies and songs have pointed to it. Books and poems have alluded to it. Religions have embraced it: love is all the world needs to solve its problems. Yet, for most of the year, this message lingers in the background. Too often, we seem to forget the power of love until, thankfully… the […]
And Keep It Forever I have to be truthful here and tell you something up front: I have had many relationships that have ended badly, mainly because of my impatience or perfectionism. But the more I embraced the idea of having a giving attitude and communicating better, the more my relationships –romantic and otherwise — […]
Time and again, I’ve seen articles, posts, and quotes that advise, “If you want to be more positive, remove negative people from your life.” And when I’ve read this advice, I always have an intense internal reaction. I have experienced the pain of loss and abandonment, and every time this message comes around, I think […]
Spirituality “You can not force Spirituality; people must discover it for themselves.” “We know that life is really about a spiritual unfolding that is personal and enchanting, an unfolding that no science or philosophy or religion has yet fully clarified.” “The universe is energy, energy that responds to our expectations.” “The thought of both East […]
Growing up, I never liked working within teams. Negative experiences at school and early jobs I held marred my judgment and frequently curbed my enthusiasm to collaborate. I am a type A personality, a very hard worker and a perfectionist at heart – I always expect high quality. Working with others who didn’t take their […]
The door closes. They are gone. That part of your life is now in the past, and the one you loved is yours no more. Sometimes, a break-up will be filled with immediate relief (mostly, it will be filled with sadness) but this scenario has the potential to tear your heart from your chest and […]
A mother wrote me recently, “How can I heal the conflicts with my daughter?” Her family feels that they are walking on eggshells so as to not upset her. This mother believes her daughter is using the “Poor Me” control drama to get things she wants from her family. Her daughter tries to gain power […]
We have work to do, bills to pay, people and animals to care for… the list of responsibilities we carry is endless. And the people who are able to stay on top of it all are a wonder. They are respected, they are emulated. They are The Responsible Ones. As we reach the age of […]
Our species have struggled with the “seven sins,” for longer than the clock has ticked. And it seems to me that these negative behaviours all have two things in common: they are triggered by trauma and rooted in Fear. When something happens that we can’t rationally compute, fear sets in, and it can morph into […]
The other day my 4-year-old stood up on a kitchen chair, pointed a finger at his Dad and said, loudly, “Hey, hey, stop talking over me. You’re talking over me.” While I originally brought it up to a friend of mine as a cute, clever story about my child, it sparked a conversation about how […]
