Nothing knocks my peace as much as this...

[Theressa]

Hi all,

the day can be going along okay. then bang its like a volcano errupted. how can one not get hurt and upset as their daughter yells and halls abusive names at u. U get annoyed and then they go on as if nothing happened.

Adolescences. no one else can hurt and floor one like they can and do!

Then the negative energy one must give off.

today what with my injuried arm and two finger typing and an adolescent my lid blew right off.

I agreed to this assignment before this incarnation yes i know! but it is so hard and challenging.

what could i be learning apart from how to get frustrated?

Love frustrated T

[GeneHrsy]

Hi T,

Adolescents are going through the hormone storm of early adulthood, as you know. This is what it sounds like to me, because she just dropped it and went on as if nothing happened. There is so much going on in her life right now that she doesn't know how to deal with. It is a constant struggle to understand the changes in her being. Changes she may think she is all alone in dealing with, because it is so personal and important to her character.
Without knowing details, I would say that she is probably not like that most of the time. You said: "the day can be going along okay. then bang its like a volcano errupted." You were enjoying the day, and she was having problems. She's used to your attentiveness and may have interpreted the difference in moods as you not caring about her trouble. Or, she just needed to vent her own frustrations and you are the duct work in her life.
I was seeing a woman a few years ago who had a five year old daughter. Most of the time, they got along like two parts of the same souffle. But every now and then, with no apparent cause, they would get into the worst name calling and even physical confrontation one can imagine. These two people love each other!
I went out and bought a squirt gun and the next time they started fighting, I unloaded it on both of them. The fight ended in laughter that brought tears to them. So, are you two lookin' to get wet ... pardner? I'm gunnin' for laughter sake!

Namaste
Gene

PS. What's the matter with your arm?
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[Theressa]

Hi Gene,

i know u r right about daughter.

i've damaged the tendons and ligaments in my right arm.

i've a tutor who is never available to help who then wonders why i get the assignment wrong. tells me well everyone else understands so don't see why u don't theressa?

Feeling angry and unsupported in my life at the moment.

Love
Theressa

ps u r being supportive though thanks.

[kelly]

Hi Theressa

You do have a loving supportive group here, in this space. You have brought so much light, wisdom and beingness to others here...know that all that is freely moving right back toward you...

My biggest parenting challenge was a period during the year my daughter was 14. I was miserable, she was miserable; it seemed at certain points that we'd completely and utterly lost connection with one other.

Two things ultimately helped me (I even went into counseling, but that didn't help) ... I read Reviving Ophelia by Mary Phiper. While not all of the book pertained to our situation, what I really got through reading it was just how utterly common these challenges are, for both mom and daughter. I felt less alone, less frustrated, less of a failure, and was able to start picking myself back up again.

This led me to laughter. We hadn't laughed in weeks, and one day in the car with her and her best friend, I made them laugh. The energy shifted in a flash and, I think probably because we'd been so bereft of that energy, we started building on it, with smiles and loving glances and laughter.

I was able to keep the energy up for enough days that eventually all the pain and rejection from before had no power. It took her a while more to regain her balance, but my sense is that because I was there, holding the energy for the both of us, even through the hormonal/emotional/etc ick, she eventually fell into my arms.

It's one of the hardest things I've ever done, and (here comes the cliche...) one of the most rewarding... She's 19 now, and we have a bond I wonder if we'd have if we hadn't shared that 'horrible' experience together. It's part of who we are, and we're better for it.

For me, one of the key tenets of Celestine thought is the upliftment of energy. It's behind everything: when we uplift ourselves, others are uplifted; we're better able to sense control dramas and respond rather than react; we can better engage the flow, recognize synchronicity, and create a clear and positive prayer field, or field of intent that extends around us in every moment.

Two simple things James consistently recommends: one, in the morning before our feet hit the floor, set our intention for the day; two, find the silver lining in everything, even (especially) where it seems there is none. In doing so, we again uplift our energy.

Please take any of this that resonates with you, Theressa...the rest may resonate more with another...

Give yourself a great big giant hug! Seriously! lol Do it! Feel it! Feel it! Feel it! That juice there is what you have to give yourself and others

With many blessings,
Kelly