Thank you James

[truth]

... and to everyone on this forum... I love the energy on here at the moment and felt compelled to share a thought.

Let's reduce life to a moment, oops, it's just slipped by, so let's instead think of life as one humungous moment. We, as individuals, are a mass of energy, attracting the particles we need to create the life we live, as the clock ticks we're constantly recreating ourselves to fit the circumstances in which we find ourselves. Now let's look at that manmade ticking clock, how does it define and shape that mass of energy? It doesn't, we do, recreation by recreation. So, what does this mean in real life? Well, let me give it a go...

In practical terms, in any one particular moment: we cannot change where we find ourselves in life, we cannot change the circumstances that surround us in that place in life and, this is the doozie - neither can we be anyone but the person we are, because we just are! However, when we choose to be who we really want to be, our creation process forces us to confront the contradictions between the person we really want to be and the one we are in practice. The discomfort we experience through the process is caused by bringing that person that we really want to be into life and shedding, little by little, our perception of the person we think we are meant to be.

Oh, but the discomfort is oh so worth it, gradually we become attuned to when a transition is about to take place and learn to look forward to it in anticipation... the good news being that not only do we shed our old selves in what appears to be the right order, but we draw to us the help we need, when we need to get us through.

So please, for those suffering the discomfort, hang on in there, there's always help on hand and you, leading your way, will help others in the process, and for those kind souls who have had to suffer the consequences of my own discomfort - thank you, thank you, thank you for being you and being here...

James, you are a star!

[LoveLight]

I see that the original intro was longer ago, but I'll still pop in and greet you here, since it's all one big moment, right?

[truth]

Indeed!

I wrote a post a while back: we find that which we seek... not easy to realise when what we find makes us uncomfortable... Now in the past I would have said something like, 'once we get attuned to that sense of discomfort, we can use it to move forward and learn who we really are', but I've since learnt that not everyone goes through that self-reflective process. You know, there are those who have to learn via 'The Groundhog day' scenario, learning 'right' from 'wrong' through trial and error, but of course that means that if they are not aware that they are in that 'Groundhog Day' the tendency is to brush the experience off and move forward. The good news is that those who brush it off tend to hook up with those who won't - of course, that can lead to further discomfort!

My current problem is that I'm involved with a number of people who don't openly have an inclination to learn from their discomfort and my task appears to be to help them to 'do as they really want to do.' Not easy when they don't know what they really want to do and all I'm working with is the intangibles - being able to see their contradictions and having faith that I'm seeing them for good reason!

I'm glad you mentioned Kung Fu Panda, I caught up with Nemo the other day - the messages in those films can be incredibly profound, I love them, great role models... perhaps that's what I need to do! Not take life too seriously - thank you!

I love this learning process, I knew I had to reply to your post, I had no clue as to what I was going to write, especially in respect of the problem I'm faced with at the moment and then I find the answer in your post... ta dah!

Enjoy the moment! Thank you!
Pat

[monalisa]

Hi Pat,

I wrote in this forum after along time. I reintroduced myself today and also described current questions to which i am seeking answers. Reading these posts written by you have given very clear answers.

Currently, I am trying to settle in my new career and trying to find a soulmate. I have read 'secret' n 'the power of subconcious mind'. And i realize that my future is indeed a blank canvas which i have to paint myself. Its kinda scarry too as the responsibility is totally on me. Coz from now onwards wotever i sow i will thereby reap accordingly. thats why i get scared in making decisions coz i dont want a replay of my past. sometimes i am confident i will be able to do the right thing and sometimes not.

Also the so called obstacles in my path(people in my case) i have started viewing them as challenges, theoritically. yet to do it practically.

Earlier i used to think if this person gets out of my way i will be able to achieve my dreams. They were obstacles in my way. While watching a progarm about bramhkumaris...I learnt that i need to view it differently...that is..." This is the way '' and not as This is in my way.

The lady in the above mentioned program gave a wonderful example- that our life is like a hurdle race. We dont wait for the hurdle to vanish and also we donot fight it but rather we jump over the hurdle to continue and therefore win the race.

My only problem is I understand these very well but i dont do them practically

Thank you Pat.

Love to all

[truth]

Hi Monalisa,

Thank you for your post, not surprisingly it was what I needed to read just when I needed it. You see it helped me to understand better my approach to our different approaches to life - what I've seen is that the aggressors blame others for life's ills, but are more than happy to take the credit when they do good, to whom I act aggressively, whereas the passives feel that no matter how much they do it's never quite good enough, to whom I think I act passive/aggressively. I really want to learn how to attach others to what they really want to do in life - to help people realise that they are perfect just the way they are and to love their life's journey - and I think you can help me do this.

You seem to have an incredibly strong spirit attached to an astute and quick mind and it seems to me is that your spirit, as strong as it is, feels a little overwhelming to you, as if you (the physical/mental/emotional) can't do it the justice it deserves? This power imbalance creates a gap between the life you really want to live and the life you are living, hence you try to do more than and give more than you need to to fill that gap. Does it help to hear that given this point in time, and at every other point in time you are perfect just the way you are? You see we all have gaps between the life we really want to live and the life we are actually living - the thing that I find incredible is that you have already acknowledged the challenge, now add to this the wonder of life, the joy of life and the love of life and that gap changes from a search for solutions to our life's problems to a journey filled with joy, wonder, love and learning.

I recently read The Shack - initially only getting as far as the story of the Princess throwing herself off the cliff to save the tribe. Before I could continue reading the book, I had to first realise that I didn't have to do the same to save ours, all I had to do was throw my doubt off the cliff - major relief! Once I realised that, I read the rest in a day - it's a good story and for some reason I felt compelled to tell you about it.

Aren't family the biggest pain and yet at the same time the biggest joy? My mum was and remains my biggest hurdle in life - the problem with family is that they become so regimented in their own rules for life that those non-conformists among us find it a struggle - first because of the strength of our spirit, secondly due to our respect for them and thirdly our expectation that they should know better than we do - the latter is not necessarily the case and when this is so, we have to be the ones to cut them the slack otherwise the battle never ends... we have to want to love them for who they are - unconditionally... plant that want and life will show you how.

Well, I had no idea what I was going to write when I started, but I'm happy with the result. You will find much peace and sanctuary on this forum as well as challenges...

Enjoy!
Pat

[truth]

... for opening my eyes to the miracle that is life...

Hugs,

Pat