Control Dramas

[Lana]

Eaglesoul:

[Theressa]

Hi Lana,

I feel we still need to set boundaries on what we allow to impact us. It is like we wouldn't get into a cage with an animal that would bite us would we. I think it is about being clear about the energy we want to be around. However, sometimes our environment gives us clues about where our weak spots are. I also think that we need to be in the real world to grow. Thus, it is impossible to never be impacted by anyone. There is a saying/poem about a munk who went off to mediatate for years and years and then he came back down from the mountain and someone knocked into him and he got annoyed. I guess its about being human.

We just try our bests

love
Theressa

[eaglesoul]

Lana :
Tks for the feedback , glad it was useful.
Yes I agree with Theressa , we do our best all the time ... so keep practicing, when one looks for the lesson behind every encounter , the motivation is there ...meditation , prayer or some quiet time to center oneself each day has been the keyfor me , wont happen overnight but in time happens more and more...
Namaste

[Lana]

Oh my goodness I am so excited to share this with you.

It has "started" happening - the really being aware and in the moment around conflict. It is sparking awareness in others - one of the early flashes for some, and strengthening it in others who already have quite a bit of awareness.

This is sooooooooooooo incredibly wonderful. I feel such joy and peace and hope for us all.

A while ago I was getting hung up on how to deal with conflict happening to me. I just needed to practise being fully aware at that time. But there is another part to it. It seems to involve fully accepting what is happening. Before I was resisting it when I knew it was happening and this was flaring the situation. I let go some more, and started accepting what was happening, even if it was conflict AND it works!

Not only are people starting to feel a little more aware at work (not all as they are all at different stages, just as I am) but it works over the phone! So the phone prayers we do here really work. I wasn't sure about it at the start as how could it work over the phone BUT I have been pratising fully accepting each call, what is said, even if the person is angry and it works! It's magic! Even the people who were calm in the first place have been saying at the end of the call "Oh...thank you for listening". They seem to sense the difference between good listening, and someone who is fully present and not resisting anything about the situation.

I really wanted to share this so that others who have been wondering about this can try it. The more awareness we all have, the better, for all of us as we all know.

LOVE to you all,
Lana.

[Lana]

Thank you for the replies, I do appreciate that.

Yes I think I understand now that there certainly are times when it is appropriate to protect ourselves with a good old boundary.

YAY.

[APACHI]

OMG, Theressa you speak about someone I know that fits your description to a T.

Every time I tried to help her, it just seemed that she was in control and you had NO say in it.

I felt frustrated because everytime I tried to explain the situation, it was never good enough.

In the end I told her off, said I'm tired of playing stupid games with you, you don't want to hear the truth because you are hell bent on what you believe is true.

Because of all the crap that went on, she called 4 people she knows, just to call me back and say that these people say you are a mean person to me. I'm not a mean person, I'm tired of being someone's punching bag as long as I have been her so called friend, she's 42 going on 7.

Sad case is we don't talk as much any more, it's sad that it got to this point, but perhaps she can just live like I do everyday. I have my own baggage to deal with, it's just I don't need any more.

She has been that someone who if anyone in authority paying attention to her, she would talk babytalk just to get attention and it works everytime.

[APACHI]