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BUTTERFLY TARA
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 Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 11:37 am Post subject: 'SOUL PARENTING' |
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HI , I AM NEW HERE,
I READ THE 1st BOOK WHILE PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD, SHE IS NOW 10. SINCE THEN I HAVE 3 OTHER CHILDREN .. NO PARTNER ..
UPON READING SOME OF THE POSTS HERE, I RECALLED THE CHAPTER ON PARENTING... WHAT IS THE LESSON HERE FOR SINGLE PARENTS?
MY GUIDANCE EXPLAINS THAT IT IS MOTHER EARTH'S WAY OF BALANCING AT THIS TIME.. I AM OPEN TO A SOULUTION.. WOULD APPRECIATE OTHER SINGLE PARENT'S VIEWS TO LIVING THE PROPHESY WAY AND ANY AND ALL OTHER INSIGHTS..
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sister goshe
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| Posted: Wed Mar 08, 2006 3:29 pm Post subject: 8th Insight |
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I think you're referring to the 8th Insight and treating children like they are intelligent capable little people. I think of my son and a brother. We are all God's children. I can teach him about this world, but often he's the one teaching me about un-conditional love.
The same chapter also teaches about avoiding co-dependency. I too am a single mother. I admit I have had some serious problems with gaining energy from attachments. I am working now to stay centered and develop the methods of gaining energy described in The Secret of Shambala instead of getting energy from someone else. Also, I think it takes a lot of focus to keep my energy high enough to avoid trying to steal it from my child. Usually when I am struggling I let my son know I need some time to myself. If you start to struggle I suggest taking mini-vacations to get yourself centered and gain enough of your own energy.
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MoonBird
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Location: Kamloops, BC
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 7:02 pm Post subject: Re: 8th Insight |
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| sister goshe wrote: | I think you're referring to the 8th Insight and treating children like they are intelligent capable little people. I think of my son and a brother. We are all God's children. I can teach him about this world, but often he's the one teaching me about un-conditional love.
The same chapter also teaches about avoiding co-dependency. I too am a single mother. I admit I have had some serious problems with gaining energy from attachments. I am working now to stay centered and develop the methods of gaining energy described in The Secret of Shambala instead of getting energy from someone else. Also, I think it takes a lot of focus to keep my energy high enough to avoid trying to steal it from my child. Usually when I am struggling I let my son know I need some time to myself. If you start to struggle I suggest taking mini-vacations to get yourself centered and gain enough of your own energy. |
What do you do when it's way past this point.
I'm a single mother of two (son 9 daughter 11) and the three of us escaped a very abusive situation with my X-husband in 2000! Since then I've been struggling to get us all back together! But, back then I was not as spiritually alive as I am now. So for years it was going on with the three of us sucking the life out of each other as we only had each other and didn't know any better! Now that I'm more aware I've taken some amazing steps towards getting better, but my energy and the kids energy is almost completley null and void! Almost Every day is a physical battle to keep ourselves going! We are going to therapy as a group as well as individually. We've been getting Reiki treatments when the money is there to do that! etc... ! There is no possible way for me to "take a vacation" and get my energy back! My time is when they are in school and you know what that is all about! What I'm saying is, how can a whole "family" get well when we are all sooooo far gone! We all have toxic behavior still even though we know better, we just keep slipping! I'm desperate to get us all well - and we are all so tired of the pain and struggling! Does anyone have any suggestions?
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sister goshe
Joined: 18 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 8:41 pm Post subject: you seem so upset! |
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Gosh, lady friend... I feel for you! I'm going to be very straight forward with this reply, ignoring the possibility that we may not have the same beliefs. This is what I know and what I would do about your situation:
Just as real as angels and Jesus Christ are, so are negative spirits. These negative spirits can influence us significantly. They may hang around in our homes. With faith in the power of Jesus Christ you can send them away. You will need to faithfully say a prayer like this: "Dear Heavenly Father, I thank you for your son Jesus Christ and the forgiveness I receive in Him. In the name of Jesus Christ, I command all negative spirits to leave this home. Thank you Father for blessing us with thy protection. I pray for these things in them name of Jesus Christ. Amen."
This unfortunatle may not be a permanent casting out, because if you invite the negative spirit back, it can return. Inviting it back happens when you allow that spirit to work though you again. You have the power to stop them. God has given you the agency to chose how you will act and react. You have to conciously chose to dismiss the negative spirits over and over again, even continually as you get better and better at it. With Jesus Christ, YOU have the power!
I also suggest reading the scriptures and praying as a family.
I hope this helps!
Sincerely
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MoonBird
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 9:12 pm Post subject: Re: you seem so upset! |
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| sister goshe wrote: | Gosh, lady friend... I feel for you! I'm going to be very straight forward with this reply, ignoring the possibility that we may not have the same beliefs. This is what I know and what I would do about your situation:
Just as real as angels and Jesus Christ are, so are negative spirits. These negative spirits can influence us significantly. They may hang around in our homes. With faith in the power of Jesus Christ you can send them away. You will need to faithfully say a prayer like this: "Dear Heavenly Father, I thank you for your son Jesus Christ and the forgiveness I receive in Him. In the name of Jesus Christ, I command all negative spirits to leave this home. Thank you Father for blessing us with thy protection. I pray for these things in them name of Jesus Christ. Amen."
This unfortunatle may not be a permanent casting out, because if you invite the negative spirit back, it can return. Inviting it back happens when you allow that spirit to work though you again. You have the power to stop them. God has given you the agency to chose how you will act and react. You have to conciously chose to dismiss the negative spirits over and over again, even continually as you get better and better at it. With Jesus Christ, YOU have the power!
I also suggest reading the scriptures and praying as a family.
I hope this helps!
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So, basically it comes down to doing more reading and more growing and to be constantly on guard with myself - ourselves until we are where we need to be! I know that when I have my "energy flowing" well and I feel good - then it all feels pretty good, but god help me when I find myself getting tired and the "daily grind" of dealing with the my kids problems and helping them grow etc... the "invisible world" - "Negative spirits" come rushing in and take over so so quick. I can't seem to find myself a shield or barrier to let myself breath and be human and feel my own "impatience" - "un-happiness" - "frustration" ....or what ever feeling it may be at that time! It seems like if I turn my back and let my guard down for one second all hell breaks loose (pardon my expression) but that is what it feels like for me! I feel like my life is spinning out of control and I can't get a grasp of anything to stop it! Maybe this is only just "self-pitty" getting in the way ... and I've been too busy thinking and feeling "poor me" that I'm getting in the way of myself????
I need to read this book (Celestine Prohecy) before I get myself any more worked up that I already am! A very special friend of mine has been on me about reading it for weeks now, but I've been in the middle of reading about how to let go of your past and get on with your life and I just thought that that is what I needed to do first, BUT...maybe not???? I feel that there is SO SO much that I need to do as quick as possible to survive and I don't have enough time to do it all and I am struggling with finding the balance of every day life of work, clean up etc... and the need to get us healthy! I pray that things turn around for us soon!
Thank you so much for your advice - I hear exactly what your saying to me!!
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chakratom
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I hear you there, Moonbird.
the insight you are asking about is about respect to me, in that you give every person, children included, the benefit of the doubt, and take great care in the interaction you have with them, and don't allow those "negative" energies to even develop.
I use something called an S.E.P. Field, where I cast what I don't need for my personal growth, all that negative chi, and lock it up as Somebody Else's Problem, I got the idea from Douglas Adams' Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy series, and it works great for me!
You will do what you need to do, the first place I believe anyone should put faith is in themselves, then a religious figure.
One thing is for sure, I know I can do anything I want, so I do it, that's ME I know that is doing it, and that's all I need...
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michellepetkus
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| Posted: Thu May 25, 2006 10:28 am Post subject: Control Dramas |
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Hi Moonbird,
I take it from your last post that you haven't read the Celestine Prophesy. If you haven't I highly suggest at least reading the section about control dramas. (There is also a post in the insights section on page two now that has my definition of them for a quick reference if you'd like) Your ex used a control drama on you, intimidation. You and your children are in a constant battle for control with each other. This has caused your state of mind to become trapped in a negative pattern. To break it you have to stop trying to emotionally force life. Your life is extremely busy which is making this ten times more difficult for you. I don't really have an answer for how to make it less busy but except to say that you can choose to do less. Prioritize those tasks that really need to get done and try to let some of the other ones go. Because not taking time for yourself is more harmful for you then being super woman. If you are not healthy then you can't help others to be healthy. This is all going to happen with baby steps. But you have made the first step by just looking for and wanting your life to be better. The way life works is pretty much, ask and you shall recieve, we just have to figure out how not to get in the way of the recieving, by not trying to force our world.
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Theressa
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| Posted: Thu May 25, 2006 1:45 pm Post subject: 'Soul Parenting' |
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Hi Butterfly Tara, Moonbird and Michelle,
I am a single parent. In that I live with my daughter on my own. I pay all the bills etc. I do have a partner but we live in separate houses. He stays over a few times a week.
Butterfly Tara and Moonbird,
I think firstly, it is important to understand the power of rolemodelling. I noticed that when I really worked hard on being assertive, or praising my little one followed suit. Children need limits and boundaries and so do adults. But, they also need to learn to respect each others choices. You teach them this by giving limited choices. You also, however, need to teach children routines. I remember hearing it said many years ago that children learn negative behaviours from adults. Back then I did not believe it but now I do. I now have this experience after twelve years of parenting.
Its all about positive attention. Praise, play, spending time with the children. It also is about being truthful that we are not perfect and so therefore, giving our children respect for where they are at. Its about saying okay that didn't go so well, lets start again and apologise.
Self praise is very powerful also. Firstly, off write in a journal what you did, and the outcome. Or write a letter to yourself and then one back to yourself with straightforward advice. This helps you to see the behaviours and the effects of the behaviours. Then you move on to catching yourself just after the behaviour, then you move on to noticing before you respond.
Feelings do impact so you need to see each step as progress. The big step has been admitting things aren't as you wish they were.
Also, children are mirrors they show us our own behaviours and so we can see what we want to change.
Start with you and the rest will follow!!
Blessings
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MoonBird
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| Posted: Thu May 25, 2006 9:46 pm Post subject: Thank you! |
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I'm so glad that I found this site! Finally people that I can talk to that understands why and where I'm coming from and where I want and need to be.
Everything you all have said I do know about and believe in - I also do know that I haven't followed it on a consistant basis because I keep getting lost in the muck! I've never in my life dealt with something so overwhelming on such a constant! The only way I can explain how I feel is like I'm sliding down a vertical snow bank and can't get my grip .... sometimes I get a hold and I begin to work my way back up and then again something lets go and I start to slide back down again! One day - I pray to God soon - it will just work and I will get myself right to the top!
Again, thank you everyone for your help! I know you haven't heard the last from me yet!
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oldsoul
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| Posted: Sun May 28, 2006 1:05 pm Post subject: Re: 'SOUL PARENTING' |
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| BUTTERFLY TARA wrote: | HI , I AM NEW HERE,
I READ THE 1st BOOK WHILE PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD, SHE IS NOW 10. SINCE THEN I HAVE 3 OTHER CHILDREN .. NO PARTNER ..
UPON READING SOME OF THE POSTS HERE, I RECALLED THE CHAPTER ON PARENTING... WHAT IS THE LESSON HERE FOR SINGLE PARENTS?
MY GUIDANCE EXPLAINS THAT IT IS MOTHER EARTH'S WAY OF BALANCING AT THIS TIME.. I AM OPEN TO A SOULUTION.. WOULD APPRECIATE OTHER SINGLE PARENT'S VIEWS TO LIVING THE PROPHESY WAY AND ANY AND ALL OTHER INSIGHTS..
NAMASTE |
Butterfly Tara
I am going to share with you something that you ALREADY know .
The fact that you already know it doesn't matter .
The truth is big enough there is room for infinite growth within it .
The simple one word answer to all your problems is LOVE
Or more exactly a deeper understanding of love .
ALL problems are easier to deal with when your heart is filled with love . I am not saying that just by consciously bringing more love into your heart that your problems will magicaly disapear ........
they will not ...........but they WILL be less painful and easier to deal with .
As you have learned from Celestine Prophecy love can be thought of as an energy ...... as an energy we often tend to try to " steal " it from others .... this is never a good thing
There is never any reason to try to steal spirtual energy ( love ) from another .... love is infinate ........
there is enough for everyone .......
forever .
All we have to do is remember it .
Here is a little excersize to show you what I mean .
Please don't just read it . DO it ..................focus on the feelings .
underststanding it intelectualy will bring you little or nothing ....
Love has nothing to do with intelect ........
it is all about what you CHOOSE to hold in your heart ..
Think back to a time when your heart was filled with love ..... Like the first time you held each of your children .....
Remember the first time you looked and their perfection with joy and wonder .........
This is true love.
Focus on remembering what that feeling was like .
Simply remember it .
If you truly focus on it long enough to really remember ..........you will feel that love again .........because love never dies .
This is how you can fill your heart with love ......... start by remembering past moments of love ........
It gets easier with practice ......... after a while you don't need to remember past moments of love .........you can remember love itself .
With a little practice you will be able to fill your heart with love in just a few seconds ....... even as you do other things .
It will make everyting easier .
It will make everything more beautiful
There is no limit to the amount of love you can feel .
Love is infinite .
What I am trying to show you is not a magical cure ........ you will still you will still have problems .........but once you start walking the path of love .........each step becomes a little easier than the last .
I just realised that for you ........this won't be compleate untill you understand how to teach your kids what I am trying to show you .
It won't be as hard as you might think
When they see you doing things in the old way ...... ( The way you do things now ) then stop and focus on filling your heart with love .
They will FEEL the difference .......
It will not take much explaining because they have many less years of social conditioning to overcome . In other words they have alot less emotional baggage between them and the love in their hearts .
It WILL take a little explaining for them to understand it intelectualy ...... but in general .........they will learn about love by watching how YOU deal with it .
Happy Loving
gary
www.smallinfinity.com/lightworker
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sorry, i havnt read all the way down, just had to post this....
... not the best advice in the world ever, but there are some interesting things about scrapping manipulations...
(yeah, i'm male, i just wanted to know what "the enemy" (snigger) was up to)
10 mistakes women make... (already read the 10 mistakes men make, it's basically the same)
so stop these now!
knowing a problem is often the first step in solving it.
(oh yeah, I already posted this on another forum, i'll just send a link to that)
http://forum.grasscity.com/showthread.php?t=104020
but that might not work, so here is the link direct:
http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com/10072/ebook/index.asp
you can tell from the title why i might be a little suspicious. 
hmmm... get ready to scroll if you want to avoid this...
pasting the whole thing incase for some reason you cant or wont give them your email address...
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The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make
With Men- And What To Do About It...
Here Are The Top Reasons Why Women Cheat Themselves
Out Of Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams- And
How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them...
Mistake #1) Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential"
Do you know any women who want the man
they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them
day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with
a deeper "connection".
Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times...
And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that
I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the "potential"
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them.
The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else
with them.... and that this would be easy for us
both.
Talk about a losing battle.
I doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.
Mistake #2) Assuming You "Get" Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly
pick apart certain things about his style, body
language, status and character that will tell her
all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that
they do this because the process is so obvious and
simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally
more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand
non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional
awareness and "intuition".
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men
based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now,
and talking to thousands of men and women, I can
tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms"
triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term
relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND
communication correctly, you can make men feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great
looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
Mistake #3) Pretending To Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are
constantly doing things to get a man's attention,
to get him to like them or to make him more
attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing
unusual things to try and get a guys attention
will make him magically see what a great catch
they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to
the types of women who kiss up to them, make
weak plays for affection or complain to get
what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being
sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his
feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine,
unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an "easy" woman
for men to like you, and you certainly don't have
to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly,
at an subconscious level, lower your social status
with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how
he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted
to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from
the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's
approval, finding your way into his heart through
sex and not being yourself.
Mistake #4) Sharing How You "Feel" Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that
most women make with men is sharing how they
"feel" too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men
are being approached in one way or another all the
time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off
and sends him running away faster than just about
anything...
It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really,
REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like
one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want
to rush into a relationship and can't control
yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and
complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
Mistake #5) Misreading The Important "Signals" That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they
feel about a woman and giving away big secrets
about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these
signals or recognize them for what they really
are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life -
stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally
available"
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you and for
what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing
a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in
these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women....
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to
get anywhere with a man.
Mistake #6) Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge
A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially the opposite sex.
The last several years of my life I've
spent hundreds of hours learning to understand
people.
I've studied peoples behavior, "inner
psychology" and more specifically how they
think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women
have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret
communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body
language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're
first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly
let men know if they're open to something
more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm,
humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays
of status.
Very rarely will a man be able to honestly
communicate to a woman whether or not he's
ready or capable of developing a meaningful
relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men
send very indirect signals about where they're
at.
If you don't know how to read through the
signals men send, then you'll get the wrong
message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes
women more pain and heartache than any other
issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to
indentify a good man from a bad one.
Mistake #7) Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking
a guy will change her life and make her happy
and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships
where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than
hearing or sensing that a woman immediately
wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind
of situation aren't exactly the most healthy,
loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, "controlling, macho or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear....
I think it's important that people help
fulfill each other in their lives, whether
it's dating, a relationship, etc.
But if a woman communicates that she's
looking for a guy to take care of her, complete
her, make her whole, and all that kind of
stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what
the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman
either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man
will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman
can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved
in your life in a more "natural" way, where
he'll be motivated to make you care about your
happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for
people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external
motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation
with a man....and it rarely happens by accident.
Mistake # Trying To "Convince" Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man
that they REALLY like... but he's just not
that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to "convince" the man to
feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN
IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently
about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that by being
"reasonable" with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who
don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it
NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it,
but it doesn't change the way she FEELS
about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women
will try and chase, compliment, convince and
do their best to change his mind with logical
and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
Mistake #9) Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from
a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but
if you're out on a date with a man, he already
has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out,
and you just sit there looking at him and flirting,
or trying things you think will make him want you,
he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
Mistake #10) Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having
the kind of success and finding the kind of
man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself
look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask
for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to
watch the women around me (even those I dated)
struggle to understand the men they were
attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I
made the decision to do whatever it took to
help the women I knew learn how to be successful
with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all
kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world
truth about men and women, I finally figured
things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology,
human behavior, dating/relationship advice for
men and women, love, attraction, communication,
and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation
with dating and feel confident and understand
everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my
knowledge and help women become more successful
with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and
it's how I became fascinated with the female
perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick,
insecure feeling... the one you get when you're
lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a
man you have feelings for says "he's not ready".
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up
being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up
alone.
After several years, helping woman after woman,
I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches
any woman how to increase her success with men
DRAMATICALLY.
You'll be receiving these newsletters in your
inbox at the address you gave on the last page.
Of course, it even get's better than that...
In addition to my free email newsletter, I also
have an amazing downloadable eBook that you can
download right now and be reading in literally
MINUTES.
It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of
specific strategies for overcoming your fears,
meeting men, great ideas around first dates,
cheat-proofing your relationships, and how to
take things to a closer "emotional" and "physical"
level smoothly and easily.
In this day and age of "instant gratification",
I realize this might just sound like another
late-night info-mercial promising to make you
wealthy and retired by next week.
Well, that's not the case.
I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy
studying, observing and understanding this area
of life.
I wanted to design and create a book that ANY
woman could easily understand.
Something you could start using IMMEDIATELY to
meet, attract, date, and keep a great guy.
I want to help you create an amazing relationship
with the right man... without having to deal with
all the wrong men, be "manipulated" or experience
pain and loss.
I now believe that ANY woman can be more
successful with men and dating, and I get emails
every day with success stories from women. They've
taken what they've learned and found great guys
and are growing meaningful relationships.
I know, I know... a book that can teach a regular
girl how to be more successful in the dating world?
No way.
Well believe me, this will DRAMATICALLY increase
your success, comfort and happiness when it comes
to men, dating and relationships... I absolutely
guarantee it 100%.
If you'd like to take your success with men and
dating to the next level, and find how to create the
foundation for the relationship that you've always
wanted, then go here:
http://www.CatchHimAndKeepHim.com/e/10072/eBook
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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