the story of vince - synchronicity

[omegadrax]

my name is vince and i am thirty-seven years old.

when i read the celestine prophecy, specifically about synchronicity, it only reaffirmed what i already believed about the universe. i am a firm believer that nothing happens by chance, coincidence, or blind luck. i am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and when we are blind to the reason, we tend to assume that the reason doesn't exist. what i did learn was that synchronicity is not absolute and written in stone. the magical moments created and given by synchronicity can also be uncreated and taken by the same synchronicity. this confused me because i had always believed that the universe would lead me to where it needed me and leave me there, but through experience, i have found that the place i need to be is not static, but dynamic and ever-changing.

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my experience of being married and divorced is the most powerful example. i met my ex-wife through a long process of meeting friends and then meeting their friends. my best friend knew a guy looking for a place to stay and his girlfriend knew a guy that was an aspiring writer. this aspiring writer knew a girl that would be perfect for me and this girl brought a friend to one of our parties. this friend enthralled me. not convinced of this whole love at first sight thing we talked for months before we even started dating. coincidentally, her parents met in my hometown (a small northern michigan town) while her dad was stationed at the military base (where my dad was stationed) and her mom was a student at the university of michigan (where i got my undergrad degree). the coincidence was two powerful for me to ignore. i felt very strongly that this was where i was supposed to be. we were married and had two beautiful daughters. just as things came together, things fell a part. we both felt like we were in a place where we weren't supposed to be, but family pressure and social dictates kept us together (and at each other's throats) until we couldn't take any more.

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now, she is remarried and due in july. she is where she needs to be and at first, i didn't understand. now i do. we are even rebuilding the friendship we once had.
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I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man's self-respect is a sin." -- Antoine de Saint-Exupery