"our personal destiny unfolding"

[Stephanie34]

Hi Mr. Redfield:

I am so happy that I found your website! I don't have that much time to read books but when I found your book I made time to finish reading it. Actually we were at my mom's for Christmas and I was happily surprised that she had the next 2 books from your first one on her bookshelf!!! I hope you'll continue to write more of these books!!!

I would like to know more about the definition of your earlier post in which you mentioned "our personal destiny unfolding". How do we know that we are going on the right path of destiny, have we made the right choices etc... and if you have any insights on the true "Soul mate" definition. thx.

[michellepetkus]

Hi Stephanie,



I'm not sure if James is going to respond to you as he has been quite busy with the movie and his biweekly telecalls. He hasn't posted here in quite a while so in case he hasn't the time I thought I'd put my two cents in about your questions if you don't mind.



No matter what, you are on the right path for your personal destiny to unfold because the bottom line is there are no right or wrong choices. However, the process by which you make your choices will determine how pleasantly your destiny will turn out. Essentially, what you put out is what you get back. The choices you make can be positive or negative. If you make positive choices that are beneficial for all concerned then your personal destiny will play out to your benefit but will also unfold in ways that will uplift others to achieve their own personal destiny thus raising the level of spiritually on a wider scale which is the world view as prophesized by James. The problem is as easy as it is to say I will only make positive choices we are human with failings that we have to unlearn. We want things out of life. A nice house, someone to love us, that great job but when we go about trying to achieve those things we can have a tendency to fall into negative behavior. Fear, anxiety, anger, pushiness are all traits, behaviors, habits that essentially block us from achieving our full potential. Why, because they are selfishly motivated. Our concern when we are in those states is only for our own self preservation and not for the good of all. So until we unlearn these negative traits we will continue to come up against road blocks and obstacles in our path on our quest for happiness. But all is not lost, as I said before, there are no right or wrong choices. There are only consequences so to speak. Meaning, until we unlearn our negative behaviors we will continue to draw strife and conflict into our life. It is meant to happen that way to help teach us the consequence of our negative behavior. So if you are bumping into walls just know that all is as it should be because if you are bumping into people know that they too are having the same problems as you or they wouldnít be bumping into you. And then one day out of the blue it will hit you. To achieve my full potential all I have to do is get out of my own way and let life happen as it should. It really is just as simple as that. As a side note, for me personally the change came when I decided all I wanted was to be happy. No matter what life held for me I just wanted to be happy, nothing else.



As for a definition of Soul Mate, there are many out there. The classic definition is someone who is your spiritual equal in every way. So much so that it is pure bliss to be with this person to the point where the rest of the world doesnít need to exist. I, however, donít necessarily believe that that is the only type of Soul Mate. A Soul Mate to me is someone you feel an intense bond with. You just know deep inside that this person is a part of you in some way more so than any other person on the planet. I am with such a person and to my surprise it wasnít at all a reflection of the classic definition. If anything, this person was probably the last person I saw myself settling down with and yet he became a huge part of helping me grow into the person I am today. I almost walked away from him but my consciousness warned me I would be walking away from an extremely important relationship if I did. And though it was challenging at first the Soul Mate connection I felt kept me from running away and I am definitely the better for it. The bottom line is, no matter the definition, if you come across a Soul Mate, or just someone who is an important part of your destiny, you will just know.



Sincerely,

Michelle

[Theressa]

Hi Michelle,



I realise those negative behaviours you speak of are what I need to work on. I realise how afraid I am of losing my job. You know I looked for work for a while and then found this job as a careers adviser but I am so afraid of it being taken away from me. You see before I had no job and thus, nothing to lose. Now I feel I have something to lose. Does that make sense?



I've been having lots of dreams lately about being lost on holiday. What do you think these dreams mean?



I seem to eventually find the others I was with and then wake up.



I find myself feeling afraid about my relationship. My partner complains I don't do enough time making love. I do it about once a week and sometime twice. I like novelty and also am knackered on my work days so I am doing for me what is possible. Its amazing when I do make love but I always feel pressured by him that I should be doing it more and everyone else is doing it more.



It seems a common thread in my life about resources. My resources and others always wanting more than I can offer. However, they seem to have less spenditure of their resources e.g others bail them out and pay for things for them. Take xmas. I was adamant that I was not once again going to pay for my partner (who lives in his own home and has his own income goes to college four hours a week rest of time is his own) I was adamant that he'd have to contribute. Then a few days before New Years eve he buys a new cell phone and then on New Years Eve can't contribute fully because he is skint. My Sister says "Theressa don't be so tight, we can't sit and let him not eat". How does he do it every time, get some way off paying???



Then I feel guilty because this is the man I love. He come across town to meet me so I don't have to walk home alone but when the resources are money he is reluctant to contribute fully like above.



Thanks for listening



Blessings

Theressa

[michellepetkus]

Hi Theresa,



Taking a vacation/holiday means taking a break or much needed rest. The fact that you are getting lost probably means that you may have lost sight of how to let go and relax when you are not working which is subsequenly causing you to loose touch with yourself. In the minimum I would really try to find some alone time or if possible take a real vacation/holiday where you can get away from it all. The fact that the dream is repetitive means this may be important for your health or wellbeing.



Fear is a funny thing. We know it is counterproductive but we can't always turn it off. For me, I'm actually the opposite. When I'm working I don't worry about money but I'm terrified I'll never be able to make another penny if I'm unemployeed. It is probably one of the few fears I have left that I have not totally overcome. Well I have a fear of sky diving also but that's because I Dont Want To Die! In any event, I always ask people who are dealing with fear to ask themselves what is the worst that could happen. Really think it through, feel it, and then grab hold of it and look it square in the eye and ask is it really all that bad? If something is lost cannot something new be found? Give this a try and see what you come up with.



As for your mate the relationship sounds a little one sided. And you are correct. As long as you enable him to take advantage of you then he will continue to do so. But this is a tough one because once you start standing up for yourself and demand equality in the relationship he may leave to find someone else he can take advantage of. Or he may realize how much he loves you and will begin to become self sufficient. A win win for both of you. But if he does leave after you truly start loving yourself then in his place you will be drawing people into your life who are true partners. So if he does leave then know that he doesn't have your best interests at heart and you deserve someone who does and quite likely you will find that someone.



It seems to me that you are the type of person to be easily swayed by guilt. This shows how much heart you put into your relationships because you are truly concerned about their well being over your own. But believe me when I say you can love yourself and still love everyone else in a healthy way. But you first have to realize that your needs are just as important, you are just as important as everyone else. I know it but I want you to start believing it. When you do a lot of your fears will melt away.



Your Friend,

Michelle

[Embraced]

I agree with Michelle. From the little bit that you're telling us, it doesn't seem to me that this person is your soul mate. Like Michelle says, if you stand up for yourself and he still sticks around then I woud give him a try a bit longer and see what happens. To my believes, your soul mate would not put you through that because he would feel as one with you. I see nothing wrong about paying for his stuff in the meantime while he's in school, because if this person is your soul mate, It'll probably pay off because he may be the one taking care of you later, but another thing is use and abuse, and it is you who ultimately has the answer. Trust your instincts.



As far as soul mates, reading Michelle's writing felt as if I was reading my own story. I too wondered many, many times what made me stay with this guy only because we had absolutely nothing in common. There was just something about us that kept us going. Til this day, we look back and don't know how to explain it , but there was something about him so powerful underneath everything else which had nothing in common with me. One day, I remember being in my car, and as I was in a red light I looked at my rear view mirror and in the car behind me, I saw Rey older, with a different, mature hair cut, and wearing an executive shirt. God, this still brings tears in my eyes. Because it was such an intense feeling to see this, young, crazy guy, no job, not in school, as the man that he would become today, and right there it just made sense to me that there is something powerful life was trying to tell me and that I was only seeing his true potential beyong the craziness at the moment. It has been 8 years since then and I can tell you he looks just like that man I saw that day. He is now an electrical engineer and owns his own firm and fully takes care of me and our 2 babies. We are now on the same plane spiritually. He says that I knoe him more than he knows himself.

I also had the chance to read another post by Lauri in which Michelle explained that you can sometimes the the aura of those who are close to you. I can tell you that this is true. When I first took interest in seeing auras, it happened one night that we just happened to be talking about the book and just kind of playing around, I tryed it how the book suggested it, and I saw his right away. He didn't see it but the color came to his head, the same color I saw very clearly. I haven't practiced much, but so far, I have only been able to see his and my own, which I think goes in agreement with that one post.

I hope this helps a bit.