Healing from dissolution of marriage, finding divine plan

[Vivien]

Dear Patricia and Little Bird,

Thank you for your kind and helpful thoughts! I really appreciate them, and those of all others who might not write...

I have had some scheduling conflicts with the Tues. evening prayer group lately but agree, the circle is very powerful! I'll join in on the recordings as you have remended me. in the Here and Now, they are still very effective.

Many blessings to both of you,

Vivien

[Vivien]

Well, things are taking longer and are a bit more complicated than I had anticipated at last writing.

I am accepting the lessons, day by day, in surrendering to the higher power of Divine Love and all the Wise Beings who guide, protect and LOVE me/us along the way. I am SO far from perfect in this...

I am learning to accept that I may not be able to accept every thing all at once.

I am so grateful to be part of this healing grid, and hold you all in prayers for peace, healing, direction in your lives. May your joy be full no matter what you are going through.

Let us fan the flames of Miracle-consciousness being made manifest through each of us.

Thank you, Thank you, Bless you,

Vivien

[Vivien]

Dear Friends,

Please hold a positive vision for us as we go back to mediation tomorrow (11/17) in hopes of breaking through the conflicts, stalemates and confusion that have accumulated...with as much peace, love, courage, cooperation, respect, and truth as possible.

Thank you so very, VERY much,

Vivien

[WolfsEyelash]

Dear vivien

I will hold you and yours in my prayers. May you find Peace, Love, strength wisdom and truth and may these fruits of the spirit be your ever guiding light, may you always be divinely guided and protected.

and so it is.

with love & gratitude

sophia
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"Love knows not it's own depth til the hour of separation"
Namaste *

[Vivien]

Dear Friends,

Thank you for all of your prayer support. After almost 3 years, the divorce is close to finalized (I know, I've said that before...) As painful as it has been (and it has), we have been blessed with as much integrity and grace as possible once it was clear that the marriage was over. The healing continues.

I am now trying to prepare the house, the children, and myself for selling, with the seemingly crazy goal of putting it on the market later this month! We owe more than many of the estimates say it is worth right now. I cannot afford it, and there are incentives for home buyers that expire at the end of April.

'Is this the right timing?' I ask my angels. There is SO much to weed through, sort, toss, give-away, organize, maybe even sell some things. There is help available, but much of it requires money. I love the idea of helping others by offering them work while they help me, but my debts have been increasing. I need wisdom & a synchronicity of miracles!!!

The emotional, physical and mental stress this brings is extreme. May the process be successful, prosperous, filled with peace, ease, cooperation, balanced energy and wellness. I feel I am here to give more than I am able to while still dealing with so much "nitty-gritty" of letting go of that which has been outgrown.

Many blessings to ALL who are challenged by life at this moment, and I know there are so many challenges/opportunities.

Thank you again. you are deeply appreciated.

Vivien

[Vivien]

Update: We were so close, but my ex-to-be lost his job, and all the changes that set into motion make it so we have to go back and re-concoct the agreement. It took so long to get where we were...I guess it is better this happened before we made it legal because all that renegotiating afterward would be even more expensive

I feel so overwhelmed at times. I am gratefully a lot stronger (usually) than I was when I first joined this forum for support.. I still have a way to go and grow. So much is in my life to assist this!

Thank you for continuing to beam love our way.

I read and hold many of the prayers on this forum but usually don't write anything.. If you are (or aren't) on there, know that I wish you the highest possible good always.

In Gratitude,

Vivien

[Kitt]

This is one close to my heart my dear. I am in the mist of my own dissolution of marriage. And even though I know it is the best for all the process is not easy. The healing and grieving is the challenge at hand. And what emotions that means for you and I is the place the universe and your soul has chosen for us. Globally many are finding they must sever relationships. This is also because vibrationally we are not compatible. We do not resonate with them anymore. Our paths through life will be separate, or seemingly, for now. For me, I can feel the liberation of the soul. And everyday I am stronger. My growth and frequency continues to change because he is not in my field any longer. Ask for any fear to be taken from your field. Know that financially all will be provided and start believing it. I wish you peace.
Namaste

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Take the time to be in the place between your thoughts..................there...........is peace, strength and solitude.
You are worthy of all things, limited to none.

[Vivien]

"Just because it ended, doesn't mean it failed. " -Alan Cohen

Thank you, Kitt.

It is certainly a big club to belong to! After more than 3 years of separation I am much stronger and the waves of grieving are fewer with more distance between them. But they still hit, starting in the subconscious and breaking through to awareness, sometimes with surprising force.

I, too, feel the freedom of spirit which comes from being out of that energy field. It is still confusing that what fed my spirit so strongly for a long time (and visa-versa, as we fed each other's) turned such a severe turn over time. There is a part of me that still wants to believe in waxing love and compatibility, but I must admit I am feeling pretty perplexed by the whole thing.

Relationships really are a path of initiation. The main thing I think happened here is that we were not nurturing ourselves, not generating our own energies as the Celestine Prophesy talks about. Or as Michele Germain put it in The Jill Principle, Jack and Jill went up the hill...but then each was looking to the other to fill their pails only to end up empty and frustrated...

So this is what I truly want to learn how to do. It is a crazy dance now to learn how to be healthily interdependent with others. This includes generating my own energy, my own self-compassion better. From this place I think I could be a much better partner, parent, coworker, friend. I still swing between the craving to connect and the self-protecting urge to become completely self-sufficient. I am hoping that my willingness to admit being like the Fool card in the Tarot deck means that I have a greater capacity to learn and grow.

Recognizing that love doesn't die but just takes on new forms has come more easily for me now. Honoring that my love wasn't what was wrong, that it is enough, is much harder still. And of course, this is all a big lesson on trusting God's loving Universe, my tribe of light, and my own true presence to take care of me. It has so much to do with changing my definition of partnership, of life in general, to be something other than having someone be my guardian and protector for me, instead of me becoming better at it myself. And yet- I don't think it is truly an either/or proposition! To be mutually, healthily supportive, expecting imperfection as a form of perfection...willing.

Thank you for sharing the path of growth and healing. And all the prayers I am being held with are so amazing. I can barely imagine where I would be without them. May all in a similar position find the same support and caring.

In gratitude,

Vivien

[Vivien]

Dear Friends,
It has been 4 years and many unexpected setbacks to keep us from completing our divorce. I think we are both ready to get it done. We could use prayer support and divine intervention for grace, expediency, the highest possible outcome for the children and for each of us. We have an opportunity to work together at completing the task in these next few weeks.

Thank you so much,

Vivien


‎"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it." ~ Bill Cosby

[truth]

Hello Vivien,

You should be exhausted - you and me both actually - but we are not are we? I believe that we are going through a similar life journey because we share the same prayer for life:

A Prayer for the 21st Century: I want to love any way...

I want to be wise without succumbing to the power of argument, and
I want to be the influence I want to see in the world without succumbing to the seduction of celebrity, and
I want success that assures the success of all others, and
I want to capitalise on opportunities for the benefit of everything and everyone, and
I want to surround myself with people with whom I can be perfect and who want to be perfect with me.

The prayer, excluding the last line, came to me in the middle of the week and I added the last line yesterday when my husband and I finally (?) realised where we were trying to 'fill each others' buckets' and missing.

Although the prayer seems a tall order it also appears that I have to aim beyond what I think life can offer to be freed sufficiently to engage all the really good stuff that lurks beneath my facade.

So, let's convert that practicality into beauty...

Love the ground beneath your feet,
Feel it fill your soul,
Own the words that mean the most, and
Be the life that leads our way.

Having written the above I was struck by the difference of the two verses, as the first felt harsh compared to the gentleness of the second. What do you think?

Having reflected on the above, I realised that I do so try to deliver my beautiful, soulful self in life, as illustrated in the second verse, but it becomes almost impossible when my nearest and dearest can't believe. My advice to you is something that I have to hear for myself - let him go.

The theory being that, when we let our idea of them go, we allow ourselves to be free to be the beautiful and soulful in everything that we do.

Good luck,

Pat
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[Vivien]

Thank you, Pat.

Did you write those verses or find them other ways? They are both good, and you are right, very different in tone. I am trying to live in this kind of transmuting energy, for my own shadows and his.

Our daughter is having brain surgery in 2 weeks, so energies are going to other things than the negotiations I was anticipating. I pray that the walls of fear and separation can come down and we are safe to finish the agreements. I pray that our daughter has a successful surgery and somehow makes a quantum leap in her healing.

In the same intent of the lines you sent, I offer:

The version found written on the wall in Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta:

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

Thank you for reaching out! Many blessings to you on your path.

Be well,

Vivien

[truth]

Hello Vivien,

'Be' the love you have for your daughter,
Feel that love and recognise it as your own,
Love being that love and life will guide you,
My words to you are my words to myself.

We are here to share.

Pat
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[Seeker00]

Prayers and healing energy to you. Hang in there!

Seeker

[Vivien]

Dear friends,

Times are very challenging. I pray for whatever it takes to help me and my estranged partner to gently, powerfully let go of fears and other obstacles and get this divorce done. May we rally, through the power of the love that once brought us together, to create a clean and abundant end/ new beginning for each of us and our children.

I pray that all the delays have been part of the bigger plan and that all is in Divine Order and Timing. I ask the Higher Beings and our Tribes of Light to gracefully enable us to get through that which seems so stuck.

I give thanks for all the blessings that are ours and hope to be even more receptive to receiving the well-needed power and healing.

Thank you!

Vivien