Alternatives to walking away
In reality, not many people are going to walk away from the majority of negative people in their lives; and from my experience, even if you try to, more will just keep coming your way until you learn the lesson they’re meant to teach you. But, there are alternatives for those who want to continue sending loving energy and positivity to help uplift and strengthen others in order to bring out their higher qualities:
1.Distance yourself – If you’re in a vulnerable state in your process of finding yourself but find the finality of ‘remove yourself’ and ‘cutting people off’ too drastic, try creating some healthy boundaries and distance yourself until you’ve built up the inner strength to shield yourself or until your light is bright enough to cast out their darkness.
2.Embrace the Celestine Prophecy Insights – When we write people off, we can lose our connection to what really matters. Developing empathy and compassion is some of the highest spiritual work you can do toward holding the vision for world peace. We can differentiate between hateful actions and the people behind them by:
a.) Understanding that empathizing doesn’t undermine our determination to create change
b.) Treating others as if they are our allies and accepting the challenge to call forth humanity to try something new
c.) Seeing their wisest self beyond their surface issues and outer characteristics
d.) Visualizing that the individual will remember their higher purpose and what they really want to do with their life.
3.Look for the deeper meaning – Many times when we’re triggered by others, it helps to look deeper at ourselves and question if it may be caused by a past upset, trauma, or issue that we haven’t yet healed and released. By avoiding the lesson in the interaction, you don’t deal with the feelings within your own self and they will continue to hinder your relationships.
4.Create self-awareness – The best way to change your life circumstances is to start with yourself. Taking responsibility for your own control dramas allows you to stay grounded and secure in your own connection to source for energy. Learning what AIR (Actions, Inactions, and Reactions) you choose and how you protect yourself as you go into stress will help you understand the ways you contribute to the negativity that you receive from others. If you are wanting to explore your inner self, we recommend the Enneagram as it has become our favorite resource. “When you transcend yourself, the fact will be confirmed by the quality of your life.” ~ Don Riso
5.Improve your Communication – Our words are more powerful than we often realize. “Not only do our words have the power to hurt others and to fuel an argument, but they also have the ability to provide an invitation for listening, understanding, and compassion, which are all crucial to resolving a conflict.” ~Amanda Smith. While we may try to watch what words we use, we must also be aware of how we say them. The tone of our voice can give us a clear indication of the thoughts and feelings we are experiencing, even if internally at first. When communicating, stay centered in your own energy, speak your truth with kindness, be open to various perspectives, and avoid blame and shame by using ‘I statements’.
The tiniest spark of light will illuminate the dark.
Others are drawn to and inspired by happy people, and love is the strongest force we have. If we can succeed in our own happiness, without cutting people out of our life, and those people see our transformation, there is surely a chance that we can help to lead them to positivity. By filling ourselves up with love, acceptance, compassion, and empathy, we can encounter negative attitudes without allowing them to drain us.
We won’t be able to help everyone that’s navigating dark roads, but we can show them by example if we just keep going and keep acting in ways that are aligned with our spiritual beliefs. And every once in a while, when someone reaches out to you, don’t stop, just slow down your step, grab hold, and walk together for a time. If someone didn’t do that for me, I would certainly still be stumbling around, struggling to see the light for the shadows.
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