The Key: Knowing Yourself
Though seeing the truth about our defenses is always slightly unsettling, it is the first step toward becoming our greater self. Our hang-ups are always defense mechanisms we have learned. Becoming aware of them, at higher levels, is the way we transcend these habits altogether. The HP key is to work towards giving up our defensive posture and then build new, more “authentic” reactions and choices in our lives. This is the real journey of growth that we all have to embark upon.
Here is how the process feels: I believe the research indicates that our defenses are really working against the anxiety presented by life in our early years. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of the anxiety because we push it away with anger. And anger becomes our defense.
In any case, we find a way to pretend we are safe. We do this by reacting to everything in ways that paint a phony picture of who we are to others, and sometimes to ourselves. The most important step in growth occurs when we realize that the self that defends and pretends is not who we really are. At some level, the real you knows something is missing, that there is a better way to gain inner security and confidence.
So to grow, we have to realize all our bids for attention from others or any of the other ways we cover up our inner anxiety, is just that. A cover-up. So we have no other choice but to look at the source of our anxiety directly. It’s the only way to start being authentic.
The fact is, it is more liberating than scary to stop pretending. And at that moment of complete vulnerability, we know anxiety for what it is: a spiritual disconnection. We are anxious because we have been trying to live life with a part of ourselves missing.
The Path Forward
As I mentioned earlier, the Big Picture of our personal growth entails Mental Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, and most importantly, in my opinion, Spiritual Intelligence.
When we give up our defenses and go authentic, we can then truly learn about the world around us. This begins a download of our Mental Intelligence. When we deal with our emotions honestly, admitting our anxiety and anger, we download our Emotional Intelligence. Lastly, when we see that there is a natural anxiety that comes from our existential situation – and see that this anxiety comes from our disconnection from a real, felt spiritual energy that is available to our authentic selves – we begin to download our “Spiritual Intelligence.”
It is our Spiritual Intelligence that unifies all of our Human Potential because it sets us free to pursue a spiritual life. We move into an authentic life and flow toward our best destiny in the world.
How? The guiding hand of Synchronicity brings us ever more self–understanding. We discover our intuition and our mission. We embed ourselves into the love and well-being, even bliss, of authentic, daily, spiritually led growth.
What is the Biggest Picture of life each of us can finally see? We aren’t who we think we are. We are so much more…
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